Is managing expectations becoming really stressful?

We are born from our mother’s womb and having at least single parent or both parents and few close relatives also. Unfortunately we can not choose our parents and relatives, but we definitely can choose our friends, acquittances, colleagues and partner. Sometimes choosing colleagues is also getting difficult day by day, it becomes compulsive. Right?

We need to face our parents, relatives, friends, acquittances, colleagues and partner throughout our life. Every relation is expecting something from us and even we are expecting something from our above relations. Process of expectations are vice versa. Normally, we are not having any problems with the expectations. But expectations are always endless and it keep going beyond our limits that becomes a problem. This problem creates stress in our mind. With stress, we keep doing same mistakes again and again and could not make clarity in any of our expectations.

We will see a simple and logical example from Mechanical Engineering to understand the gravity of expectations. When two mechanical gears (it means teethes) are coming together and expected to engage in between to function, it needs right support and good lubrication for the smooth functioning. Lack of support and lubrication create sparks in the gear functioning. If both gears start banging on each other, it would result into sparks and then into fire. This fire devastates the gears entirely. As we are progressing ahead with the time, two engaged gears are functioning well and a new gear introduced to engage then new gear needs more lubrication and support for smooth functioning. Sometimes these gears have wear & tear issues so we need to keep its maintenance also.

Similar to the above example our lives are engaged with many different gears together and need right support and good lubrication for smooth functioning of our life. But what is this support and lubrication means in expectations? We are going through chaos of thoughts and different emotion sets, where our thoughts are not channelised and emotions are not regulated. We can give right support to our expectations by channelising our thoughts and regulating our emotions. We can give good lubrication for expectations by understanding ourselves and understanding our expectations more clearly. Deep introspection is needed to understand ourselves. So it gives us a way to understand others’ expectations and keep right expectations from others.

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