Breathing helps to come out of our emotional outburst

“Consciously regulating your emotions transform the experience of your life”

Normally we are going through lot of emotions from situation to situation in our daily life. Few emotions do not get a chance to regulate themselves and its intensity goes up and above. We are going through lot of ups & downs within our emotions, which become routine for us. We are not so conscious about taking cognisance of extremely wavering graph of our emotions. Sometimes it feels good in a routine but give feeling of fatigued & exhausted at the end of the day. As our emotions change, our breathing pattern also changes. So it has a contribution to our physical exertion also. This emotional roller coaster pushes us to express reactions without thinking in any situations, which becomes emotional outburst. Emotional outburst start hampering our health and may detect problems like diabetes, hyper-tension, hyper-acidity.

Many people complain that they don’t be able recognise and control their emotional outburst in many situations. First we need to understand that you can not control your emotions whereas you can regulate your emotions. Many times we are hesitant to accept our own emotions. If someone asks us in a situation, why are you so angry? How we react to it? We say that I’m not angry. I am Okay. But are we really Okay within our mind? So it is better not to deny our real emotion. If we can accept our emotion at that moment, at least we can recognise our emotional outburst moment. 

Breathing is a vital part of our life process. It has an intersection with all of our body & mind processes. Accordingly our emotions & our breathing also goes hand in hand. When we are angry, our breath is short & fast. That is how we have specific breathing pattern in a specific emotion. If we start observing & listening our breathing, we can regulate our emotions too. Start inhaling very slowly and exhale it slowly more or double than inhaling time can really help to regulate our emotions. 

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“Belief System” – The secret to Happiness

“Each of us have set of assumptions about ourselves and perceptions about the world, which guide us to determine our reactions to the various situations we encounter.”

Corporate! it is such a dynamic world. Many times what we visualise ‘Corporate’ as something looks sophisticated from outside but dirty from inside. We have lot of common sayings or assumptions in ourselves about corporate world like “Boss is always right”, “People are very diplomatic”, “having dirty politics in corporate world”, “corporate gives you money & dignity but it steals your personal life”, “This world is always stressful & workaholic”. How have we built these assumptions around us? Many times, we have these assumptions before working in real corporate world. It has been created around us by many sources like parents, friends, society, education system, media. Everyone does not have the same experience but we have common assumptions.

As we take birth on this earth, we are somehow clean and assumption-less. But from childhood, everyone around us starts giving us unsolicited advice about people in this world and its different facets. But we get very less chance to experience everything without any assumptions in our mind. These assumptions become beliefs. When we get a job in a campus interview, we believe that this company and our profile will make us successful but very less people believe the same after five years working in same company. Entrepreneurs always believe that this venture is going to make us very successful but very less entrepreneurs feel the same after twenty years working in same venture. Why is it so???

Our assumptions make our beliefs and we start thinking through these beliefs. In our last blog, we have seen perceptions; actually we develop our perceptions through these beliefs. Every reaction in our life reflects our beliefs, when it becomes a part of our life; it becomes a part of our thought process i.e. Belief System. Every decision in our professional or personal life has a big role of our belief system.

Our belief system need to be thoroughly introspected, when we want to be successful and want to live a happy life. We need to introspect our assumptions about everything in the life very carefully and need to do it one by one. We will see a common example to see the impact of a ‘word’ in our life. We use the word ‘Deadline’ many many times in a day. But in a reality, is it really our deadline? Are we going to be dead after that line? We are slowly creating stress in our subconscious mind by using this word. This type of detailing is expected, when we are introspecting about our belief system.

We definitely can make change in our belief system, which will help us to live stress-free, happy and successful life. But we need to have patience, consistency and persistence to make these changes.

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Does Psychology define Success?

“Emotion is the consciousness of the resulting conditions – of success, failure, adjustment, compromise and balance.”

Success!!!

If we ask people to define success in their lives, everyone will have different answers. Actually, our own definitions of success are also never constant. For example, if we ask a child what is success, he might say “being a good boy and winning a chocolate from my Dad is a Success”. Later, as he starts going to school, “being a hero in the school & friends” is success for him. Later in his life, “A high paying job or an elegant car” might prove to be his symbol for success. However, in the late phases of his career, he realises that “Nothing of the above actually mattered. A peaceful life is actually what defines success in our lives.”

However, the definition of success is not constant in the society. Not every person considers a high paying job or an elegant car as success in their lives. For some people, a respectable position or a social connect would be success. For some others, it may still be different. This happens as a virtue of our experiences, social circles, thought processes, and perceptions. With ‘Thought Processes’ and ‘Perceptions’, the ‘Science of Psychology’ comes into picture.

So, the real dilemma begins here:

Do we need to handle our ‘Psychology’ as per our ‘Definition of Success’, OR

Should we handle our ‘Definition of Success’ to fit into our ‘Psychology’?

Confused?

Let’s make it simple.

Through our experiences and beliefs, we construct our perceptions. These perceptions, in turn, shape our lives and thought processes.

Still too philosophical?

Let’s try to understand this with a story.

A man is in comma and lying on the death-bed. His beloved wife sits at his bedside and waits for him to get well. She has no other choice but to wait for him to wake up. One day, her husband comes out of the comma, starts looking here and there, and finds her at his bedside. He signals her to come closer. When she des, he takes her hands in his and says, “You were with me when I was not earning anything, and no-one was ready to marry with me. You were with me when I was struggling to shape my business. You were with me when I was at peak in my business. You were with me when we bought this bunglow and our cars. You were with me when I got into huge losses in my business. You were with me when someone shot me with the gun. You were with me when I got paralysed. You were with me when I was in comma, and you are still here. So, I think you are the reason for all the wrong things that happened in my life.”

Shocked?

This man had nurtured only sad emotions. He had created a completely negative belief in his mind about his wife. He was reluctant to accepting his own faults. Hence, he constantly blamed someone else for his failures.

This is why his (emotional) state of mind created a very negative picture of his wife in his perception.

This is one of the perfect examples regarding ‘how we conveniently choose our perceptions’. Similarly, we always have our own perception towards successes and failures.

To conclude; through our emotions and beliefs, it’s our perceptions that build our psychology. If we can maintain our perceptions in a positive and rational manner, we can define a well crafted definition of success for our lives.

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