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Breathing helps us in decision-making

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Breathing helps us in decision-making

Conscious Breathing is a simplest management tool for rational decision-making

Our inhalation and exhalation is actually involved with our every activity. Now we will do an experiment, observe your inhalation and exhalation. What would we realise, we can observe different patterns of our own breathing. If we start observing the breathing with more involvement, we can define the specific pattern of breathing with specific emotion. It means we have slightly faster inhalation and exhalation when we are anxious or very sad. When we observe our breathing with normal or slightly slow in speed  without any internal disturbance, you will feel joyous and happy.  Our breathing cycles have impact on our emotions and vice versa, our emotions also have impact on our breathing. So emotions can be regulated with slower inhalation and exhalation.

Breathing is so inherent activity in our body, which made us unfocused about our breathing process. We are going through different emotions & thoughts throughout the day. We are concerned about tensions, so called ‘Deadlines’, sound sleep, over-loaded responsibility; which we are actually creating with our own thoughts and emotions. But we forget one more important thing in this process that is, to have ‘conscious’ breathing or having awareness about our breathing constantly in our routine life. But we have easily forgotten to keep a watch on our breathing, which can actually regulate our emotions & thoughts.

Decision making is a crucial activity in our personal & professional life. We need peaceful environment inside ourselves to take the right decisions. But we are always chaotic in our mind with our own thoughts, imaginations with good, bad and worst results. If we can analyse our breathing cycles, we can regulate our emotions and thoughts. We can make ourselves rational with a right pattern of breathing. When we are feeling joyous from within ourselves with normal breathing cycle , it is easy to take rational decisions without having any emotional impact. Decision making is so inherent part of our life process that we don’t recognise actual decision making moments. So we take some decision with a particular thought and in particular emotion, which result in disastrous situation. If we make ourselves aware with our breathing cycles, we can make ourselves more and more conscious. Consciousness helps us to keep ourselves more and more involved with our present situation. As we can keep our mind aware and conscious with present, it helps us to take any decisions in any moment our life.

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Anger can be used as a strategy

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Anger can be used as a strategy

In this modern age, ‘Anger Management’ is a popular subject to discuss in Corporate world and also in any informal groups. Few people are really pissed off with these words but have not understood about Anger Management at all. Many ways or strategies have been defined for Anger Management recently but all are not feeling it applicable to everyone. Many experts say it very easily that when we are sure that we can make any change in any disastrous situation, then what is the advantage of getting angry? and when we are sure that we cannot make any change in any disastrous situation, then what is the advantage to become angry? In both ways, there is no any point in getting angry.

Yes, it is entirely true but it does not happen like this in many situations. We get angry and create disastrous moments around us.

Anger is our emotion so it can not be removed from our mind but it definitely can be regulated. We will take a simple but meaningful example. Anyone’s death makes us feel bad, whether he is our acquittance or any other person from society. If I hear a news of someone’s death, I feel very bad. As I get to know that person is my friend or relative, I get sad or very sad. I used to see memories around that person and getting more & more sad. But by suppressing my emotion, I used to stand for my routine work. But this suppression of my emotion may lead me to depression. So I need to regulate my emotion on my own, no-one else can not do any thing to regulate my inner emotional status. But how it can be regulated?

Now let’s take an another example of anger. You must have been experienced this example in your formal & informal groups. Group of persons are sitting together and having a discussion, a person comes in the room, joins this group and sits with them. He starts talking very loudly with anger and getting aggressive with some issue. Someone from that group asks him “Why are you so angry? It’s okay nothing had been happened.” So how this angry man reacts to it? “No, I am not angry. Why should I be angry about?” But situation is telling the truth to other persons in the group that he’s actually angry and getting aggressive. But he’s not ready to accept that he’s angry.

In both type of examples, we have seen that we are not accepting our emotions very easily. If we accept our current emotion in our mind then we can help ourself to regulate the same emotion. Emotions can be regulated only if we accept. Now you will argue that in many cases we need to become angry to get something done from others. In case of mothers, they need to make their children to do their studies or some work. In case of manager, he needs to get some tasks done by his subordinates. In these similar type of cases, we feel like to be angry to get something done. These situations also can be handled intelligently with a different strategy.

First, we need to accept our emotion that we are getting angry. It is obvious that we get angry, if someone is not doing his desired work. This situation is expecting from me to become angry and say something angrily to get something done. Yes, this can be said very angrily as per the requirement of the situation but as a strategy to get the things done. When we are using anger as strategy, we should be aware with ourself. This should not become my emotion at any point of time in that situation. We should be telling ourself inside in our mind that we are using anger as a strategy to get something done. It is not my emotion and should not be my emotion. Using your anger as your strategy (wherever it is necessary) make you more productive and healthy too.

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Is managing expectations becoming really stressful?

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Is managing expectations becoming really stressful?

We are born from our mother’s womb and having at least single parent or both parents and few close relatives also. Unfortunately we can not choose our parents and relatives, but we definitely can choose our friends, acquittances, colleagues and partner. Sometimes choosing colleagues is also getting difficult day by day, it becomes compulsive. Right?

We need to face our parents, relatives, friends, acquittances, colleagues and partner throughout our life. Every relation is expecting something from us and even we are expecting something from our above relations. Process of expectations are vice versa. Normally, we are not having any problems with the expectations. But expectations are always endless and it keep going beyond our limits that becomes a problem. This problem creates stress in our mind. With stress, we keep doing same mistakes again and again and could not make clarity in any of our expectations.

We will see a simple and logical example from Mechanical Engineering to understand the gravity of expectations. When two mechanical gears (it means teethes) are coming together and expected to engage in between to function, it needs right support and good lubrication for the smooth functioning. Lack of support and lubrication create sparks in the gear functioning. If both gears start banging on each other, it would result into sparks and then into fire. This fire devastates the gears entirely. As we are progressing ahead with the time, two engaged gears are functioning well and a new gear introduced to engage then new gear needs more lubrication and support for smooth functioning. Sometimes these gears have wear & tear issues so we need to keep its maintenance also.

Similar to the above example our lives are engaged with many different gears together and need right support and good lubrication for smooth functioning of our life. But what is this support and lubrication means in expectations? We are going through chaos of thoughts and different emotion sets, where our thoughts are not channelised and emotions are not regulated. We can give right support to our expectations by channelising our thoughts and regulating our emotions. We can give good lubrication for expectations by understanding ourselves and understanding our expectations more clearly. Deep introspection is needed to understand ourselves. So it gives us a way to understand others’ expectations and keep right expectations from others.

Sometimes few would need help for introspection of ourselves, channelising thought process and regulating our emotions. If you really need any type of professional help, get in touch here:

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Close relation of Spinal Cord, Breathing, our emotions & thoughts

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Close relation of Spinal Cord, Breathing, our emotions & thoughts

Usually we love to sit in a recliner chairs and prefer this kind of chairs in our office, home, bus, car and theatres. We feel very comfortable in these type of chairs. We used to sit hours and hours on recliner type of chair in our offices. This sitting arrangement gives very good muscle comfort to our body. But we can offer two types of comforts to our body one is Muscle Comfort and other is Organ Comfort.

In our body, most of our vital organs are placed in our heart and abdomen region. These important organs are not bolted to any pillar in our body. It is like hanging shirt on a hanger. You can keep your shirt wrinkle free, if it is hanged properly and kept it straight. Similarly if we seat with our spine erect, our important organs get necessary comfort. These organs can give the best performance.

If we can keep our spinal cord means our neck, upper back and lower back in a straight position, we can have a complete breathing cycle from our abdomen to chest. So our body is breathing-in maximum fresh air in our lungs, which results into more and more freshness in our body and in our mental state. It is difficult to sit in a straight position for our hours but we can train our muscles to be comfortable with the spine erect.

If we are seating with a spine straight and doing the full respiration consciously, then we can concentrate on our work well. We can deliver best possible quality performance and increase our productivity in the work and at our home also. With the ‘spine-erected sitting’ and full respiration, we can regulate our emotions and thought process easily and take balanced decisions. This can be the best technique for regulating our anger, anxiety and sadness.

So keep breathing, keep your spine straight.

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Breathing impacts our emotions & thoughts

Jeevan Vaishampayan 0 Comment Psychology , , , , , , , , ,

“Conscious breathing is a simplest tool on this earth to make our life happy”

In our techno-freak world, we have many ‘Apps’ to manage anything in our materialistic life. Now we have many more iOS & Android Apps for our health care. It’s trending on our social media. But we tend to forget the simplest tool or ‘In-built App’, which nature had given us i.e breathing.

Actually we start our life with the breathing & stopping the breathing is generally considered as end of one’s life. So breathing is so intensely connected with our every activity. It has its own impact on our body & mind. Even if we start observing our breathing, we can recognise different patterns of respiration in our different emotions. When we are anxious, irritated, sad and panic; we have certain pattern of breathing. When we are happy and joyful; we have different pattern of breathing. It proves how breathing is connected with our emotions and mental state. Now it has been medically & scientifically proven that conscious breathing also helps to keep us physically & mentally healthy.

Breathing is so inherent part of us that made us unfocused about our breathing process. We are going through different emotions & thoughts throughout the day. We are concerned about pressures or stress, which we are creating through our emotions and thoughts. But we have easily forgotten to keep a watch on our breathing, which can actually regulate our emotions & thoughts.

Conscious breathing or keeping a watch on our breathing process, when we are doing our day to day activities help to keep us mentally & physically healthy.

So keep breathing, keep walking.

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Emotions are the best medicine for managing stress

Jeevan Vaishampayan 0 Comment Psychology , , , , , , , , ,
Emotions are the best medicine for managing stress

Emotions are very important and sacred element of our mind. Emotions shape our life and quality of our life. We always have question about importance of thoughts and emotions, so both are two sides of a same coin. If we have sweet emotions for someone then we always have all good thoughts about him or her. On the other side when we have some negative or bad thoughts about someone, we have nasty emotions about him or her. Actually we used to carry negative emotions for a longer period of time. It is our mind game, which we always play within us.

When we are pitching our product or a concept to any new client. We do study them personally and even we study about their company or products. In the process of our research, we collect many things and our thoughts have started processing the negative and positive sides about the client. Considering few bad experiences in our  business deals, we start thinking about negative elements more. In a result, story of our thoughts start imagining all possible negative elements from our known world. Obviously by the rule of nature, our thoughts create negative emotions in our mind. So these negative emotions used to create negativity in our minds, which leads to loosing the deal with the client. Loosing the deal or a client is a stressful situation in any business. This also happens with our personal relationships too.

Our thoughts have great speed and pace. For example, if we close our eyes and start thinking about Himalaya, we reach Himalaya within a mili-second. Actually it is faster than speed of light. But our emotions does not have that much of speed so emotions could not match the speed of our thoughts. So when we have negative emotions, we used to keep those negative emotions for a longer time in our mind. But on the other side, our thoughts have gone far ahead with negative impact. When we approach to any professional or personal tasks, our long carried negative emotions create negative thoughts lead to failure in most of the cases. Consistent failures in fulfilling expectations leads to stress.

We ourselves are only responsible for our success and failure. If we can try to keep the balance in our emotions on a regular basis, we can come up with  rational thoughts. Rational thought process teaches us to see the situations neutrally. Actually this game of our emotions and thoughts are easy to discuss but always difficult to process so we need consistency and persistence to work on our emotional balance and thought process. Sometimes few individuals might need some professional help for the above process.

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Does Psychology define Success?

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“Emotion is the consciousness of the resulting conditions – of success, failure, adjustment, compromise and balance.”

Success!!!

If we ask people to define success in their lives, everyone will have different answers. Actually, our own definitions of success are also never constant. For example, if we ask a child what is success, he might say “being a good boy and winning a chocolate from my Dad is a Success”. Later, as he starts going to school, “being a hero in the school & friends” is success for him. Later in his life, “A high paying job or an elegant car” might prove to be his symbol for success. However, in the late phases of his career, he realises that “Nothing of the above actually mattered. A peaceful life is actually what defines success in our lives.”

However, the definition of success is not constant in the society. Not every person considers a high paying job or an elegant car as success in their lives. For some people, a respectable position or a social connect would be success. For some others, it may still be different. This happens as a virtue of our experiences, social circles, thought processes, and perceptions. With ‘Thought Processes’ and ‘Perceptions’, the ‘Science of Psychology’ comes into picture.

So, the real dilemma begins here:

Do we need to handle our ‘Psychology’ as per our ‘Definition of Success’, OR

Should we handle our ‘Definition of Success’ to fit into our ‘Psychology’?

Confused?

Let’s make it simple.

Through our experiences and beliefs, we construct our perceptions. These perceptions, in turn, shape our lives and thought processes.

Still too philosophical?

Let’s try to understand this with a story.

A man is in comma and lying on the death-bed. His beloved wife sits at his bedside and waits for him to get well. She has no other choice but to wait for him to wake up. One day, her husband comes out of the comma, starts looking here and there, and finds her at his bedside. He signals her to come closer. When she des, he takes her hands in his and says, “You were with me when I was not earning anything, and no-one was ready to marry with me. You were with me when I was struggling to shape my business. You were with me when I was at peak in my business. You were with me when we bought this bunglow and our cars. You were with me when I got into huge losses in my business. You were with me when someone shot me with the gun. You were with me when I got paralysed. You were with me when I was in comma, and you are still here. So, I think you are the reason for all the wrong things that happened in my life.”

Shocked?

This man had nurtured only sad emotions. He had created a completely negative belief in his mind about his wife. He was reluctant to accepting his own faults. Hence, he constantly blamed someone else for his failures.

This is why his (emotional) state of mind created a very negative picture of his wife in his perception.

This is one of the perfect examples regarding ‘how we conveniently choose our perceptions’. Similarly, we always have our own perception towards successes and failures.

To conclude; through our emotions and beliefs, it’s our perceptions that build our psychology. If we can maintain our perceptions in a positive and rational manner, we can define a well crafted definition of success for our lives.

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