Trying hard but not achieving desired results

“Reaching to a success is keeping your mind awake and your desire is in asleep”

In our personal and professional lives, we do have many goals to achieve. Sometimes we achieve few goals very easily but few desired goals are just becoming a dream for us. Why don’t we achieve these desired results? 

We are expected to take actions for making a way to achieve the desired results but inside in our mind we spend more time defending these problem with ourselves. We start focusing on a problem and not on a process of solving it. It becomes unsolved and unachievable. Anyone is offering any help to solve, we tend to give them reasons and defend it. 

Sometimes we try to avoid taking actions because we are scared of something. We delay the process and trying to convince ourselves that how is it unsolvable or unachievable. We are trying to escape from the problem without solving it but it is not going to go away. We try to avoid the people involved in these results and it starts mis-communication and misunderstandings, which may lead to conflicts in our personal or professional life. 

When we start analysing the problem for not achieving the desired result, we come up with some half-baked strategy. We start implementing that again and again, even when we are not getting the expected results. We do not listen to ourselves and others that we should strategise to apply our strength more effectively. 

All of these problems are happening with us on regular basis. We do not give attention to it seriously. But if we start giving attention in whatever we are doing, we can make our mind awake and strategies for achieving results. We need to work out on our fear with a rational thinking and focus on a process of solving the problems. It would be little hard in a start but it would become a lifestyle after practising regularly. 

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Difference in our reaction & response

“Our body can take a quantum leap but the transformation of our mind is always incremental.”

When we talk about differentiating in our reaction and response, we need to understand what do we mean by reaction and response independently. In any professional or personal situations in our life, when we are expected to express our thoughts and emotions, we tend to express without thinking much. This process becomes reaction. It comes out with our ego, which is self protective and shadowing with our varied emotions like fear, sadness and anger. We unknowing try to save our ass and create a defence mechanism around us. Reactions are normally emotional in nature so it comes out very suddenly, which may lead us to feel regretful. 

Response is exactly opposite to a reaction. When we are expected to express out thoughts and emotions, we tend express with right reasoning and rational thought process. Response comes out slowly but it can differ the space between our trigger in mind or event and our interpretation of that trigger or event. This space allows us to create right reasoning, channelise our thought process and balance our emotions. We can move ahead peacefully in our mind to take the right decisions. Practising of giving response helps us to differ between what happens in our life and who we are, which develops our understanding people around us and make our life process more profound and satisfactory. It is little difficult to shift from our normal nature of reacting to responding but continuity and persistent can lead us to give response in any situations. 

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Breathing helps us in decision-making

Conscious Breathing is a simplest management tool for rational decision-making

Our inhalation and exhalation is actually involved with our every activity. Now we will do an experiment, observe your inhalation and exhalation. What would we realise, we can observe different patterns of our own breathing. If we start observing the breathing with more involvement, we can define the specific pattern of breathing with specific emotion. It means we have slightly faster inhalation and exhalation when we are anxious or very sad. When we observe our breathing with normal or slightly slow in speed  without any internal disturbance, you will feel joyous and happy.  Our breathing cycles have impact on our emotions and vice versa, our emotions also have impact on our breathing. So emotions can be regulated with slower inhalation and exhalation.

Breathing is so inherent activity in our body, which made us unfocused about our breathing process. We are going through different emotions & thoughts throughout the day. We are concerned about tensions, so called ‘Deadlines’, sound sleep, over-loaded responsibility; which we are actually creating with our own thoughts and emotions. But we forget one more important thing in this process that is, to have ‘conscious’ breathing or having awareness about our breathing constantly in our routine life. But we have easily forgotten to keep a watch on our breathing, which can actually regulate our emotions & thoughts.

Decision making is a crucial activity in our personal & professional life. We need peaceful environment inside ourselves to take the right decisions. But we are always chaotic in our mind with our own thoughts, imaginations with good, bad and worst results. If we can analyse our breathing cycles, we can regulate our emotions and thoughts. We can make ourselves rational with a right pattern of breathing. When we are feeling joyous from within ourselves with normal breathing cycle , it is easy to take rational decisions without having any emotional impact. Decision making is so inherent part of our life process that we don’t recognise actual decision making moments. So we take some decision with a particular thought and in particular emotion, which result in disastrous situation. If we make ourselves aware with our breathing cycles, we can make ourselves more and more conscious. Consciousness helps us to keep ourselves more and more involved with our present situation. As we can keep our mind aware and conscious with present, it helps us to take any decisions in any moment our life.

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Anger can be used as a strategy

In this modern age, ‘Anger Management’ is a popular subject to discuss in Corporate world and also in any informal groups. Few people are really pissed off with these words but have not understood about Anger Management at all. Many ways or strategies have been defined for Anger Management recently but all are not feeling it applicable to everyone. Many experts say it very easily that when we are sure that we can make any change in any disastrous situation, then what is the advantage of getting angry? and when we are sure that we cannot make any change in any disastrous situation, then what is the advantage to become angry? In both ways, there is no any point in getting angry.

Yes, it is entirely true but it does not happen like this in many situations. We get angry and create disastrous moments around us.

Anger is our emotion so it can not be removed from our mind but it definitely can be regulated. We will take a simple but meaningful example. Anyone’s death makes us feel bad, whether he is our acquittance or any other person from society. If I hear a news of someone’s death, I feel very bad. As I get to know that person is my friend or relative, I get sad or very sad. I used to see memories around that person and getting more & more sad. But by suppressing my emotion, I used to stand for my routine work. But this suppression of my emotion may lead me to depression. So I need to regulate my emotion on my own, no-one else can not do any thing to regulate my inner emotional status. But how it can be regulated?

Now let’s take an another example of anger. You must have been experienced this example in your formal & informal groups. Group of persons are sitting together and having a discussion, a person comes in the room, joins this group and sits with them. He starts talking very loudly with anger and getting aggressive with some issue. Someone from that group asks him “Why are you so angry? It’s okay nothing had been happened.” So how this angry man reacts to it? “No, I am not angry. Why should I be angry about?” But situation is telling the truth to other persons in the group that he’s actually angry and getting aggressive. But he’s not ready to accept that he’s angry.

In both type of examples, we have seen that we are not accepting our emotions very easily. If we accept our current emotion in our mind then we can help ourself to regulate the same emotion. Emotions can be regulated only if we accept. Now you will argue that in many cases we need to become angry to get something done from others. In case of mothers, they need to make their children to do their studies or some work. In case of manager, he needs to get some tasks done by his subordinates. In these similar type of cases, we feel like to be angry to get something done. These situations also can be handled intelligently with a different strategy.

First, we need to accept our emotion that we are getting angry. It is obvious that we get angry, if someone is not doing his desired work. This situation is expecting from me to become angry and say something angrily to get something done. Yes, this can be said very angrily as per the requirement of the situation but as a strategy to get the things done. When we are using anger as strategy, we should be aware with ourself. This should not become my emotion at any point of time in that situation. We should be telling ourself inside in our mind that we are using anger as a strategy to get something done. It is not my emotion and should not be my emotion. Using your anger as your strategy (wherever it is necessary) make you more productive and healthy too.

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How ‘Rational Thought Process’ helps in strategic decision-making

“Decision-making is the process of identifying and choosing alternatives based on the values and preferences of the decision-maker.”

Decision is an element which is a source of confusion in our mind in a variety of circumstances. When we are shopping for grocery and vegetables, normally we have confusion and need to take some decision. Even choosing a school for our child, we are in confusion but need to take a decision. On a larger scale, when a company faces an opportunity to enter into a new market, acquire another company or launch a new product, where management’s decision is important and critical. These are the strategic decisions, which involves developing a long term direction and vision & objective of the entire organisation. Thousands of employees, stakeholders, vendors, customers are dependent on the strategic decision made by the management. So we can imagine the mental pressure in the minds of top executives, entrepreneurs and business owners. Now we will see how the thought process helps in strategic decision making.

In our last article, we have discussed about belief system and introspection of assumptions in our mind. Our thoughts themselves ignite for making assumptions in our belief system and make impact on our emotions. In strategic decision making, we need to think from different perspectives and need to consider variety of circumstances but we always think through the assumptions in our mind. When we are introspecting our assumptions, we need to make those assumptions logically structured and reasonable. This process results in Rational thinking. Now we will see the famous example of rational thinking in strategic decision-making.

Toyota cars entered Indian market in 1997 and launched its first multi-utility vehicle ‘QUALIS’ in 2000. Toyota QUALIS has picked up the market in a very less time and was selling like a hot cake. QUALIS was most selling multi-utility vehicle in India at that time but suddenly Toyota had taken a decision to withdraw QUALIS in 2005 and launched ‘INNOVA’ in the market. Toyota wanted to project their cars as most customer-value driven cars. QUALIS was famous as Tourist car but Toyota wants to make their vehicle’s identity as a family car so they launched INNOVA.

Toyota had taken a strategic decision with a rational thought process to withdraw their most selling vehicle in India. We also can make our thought process channelised and rational to take best strategic decisions in business and any decisions in our personal life. But it needs consistency and persistence to change our thought process. As we mentioned earlier, emotions also play a vital role in making rational thought process.

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