Trying hard but not achieving desired results

“Reaching to a success is keeping your mind awake and your desire is in asleep”

In our personal and professional lives, we do have many goals to achieve. Sometimes we achieve few goals very easily but few desired goals are just becoming a dream for us. Why don’t we achieve these desired results? 

We are expected to take actions for making a way to achieve the desired results but inside in our mind we spend more time defending these problem with ourselves. We start focusing on a problem and not on a process of solving it. It becomes unsolved and unachievable. Anyone is offering any help to solve, we tend to give them reasons and defend it. 

Sometimes we try to avoid taking actions because we are scared of something. We delay the process and trying to convince ourselves that how is it unsolvable or unachievable. We are trying to escape from the problem without solving it but it is not going to go away. We try to avoid the people involved in these results and it starts mis-communication and misunderstandings, which may lead to conflicts in our personal or professional life. 

When we start analysing the problem for not achieving the desired result, we come up with some half-baked strategy. We start implementing that again and again, even when we are not getting the expected results. We do not listen to ourselves and others that we should strategise to apply our strength more effectively. 

All of these problems are happening with us on regular basis. We do not give attention to it seriously. But if we start giving attention in whatever we are doing, we can make our mind awake and strategies for achieving results. We need to work out on our fear with a rational thinking and focus on a process of solving the problems. It would be little hard in a start but it would become a lifestyle after practising regularly. 

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Difference in our reaction & response

“Our body can take a quantum leap but the transformation of our mind is always incremental.”

When we talk about differentiating in our reaction and response, we need to understand what do we mean by reaction and response independently. In any professional or personal situations in our life, when we are expected to express our thoughts and emotions, we tend to express without thinking much. This process becomes reaction. It comes out with our ego, which is self protective and shadowing with our varied emotions like fear, sadness and anger. We unknowing try to save our ass and create a defence mechanism around us. Reactions are normally emotional in nature so it comes out very suddenly, which may lead us to feel regretful. 

Response is exactly opposite to a reaction. When we are expected to express out thoughts and emotions, we tend express with right reasoning and rational thought process. Response comes out slowly but it can differ the space between our trigger in mind or event and our interpretation of that trigger or event. This space allows us to create right reasoning, channelise our thought process and balance our emotions. We can move ahead peacefully in our mind to take the right decisions. Practising of giving response helps us to differ between what happens in our life and who we are, which develops our understanding people around us and make our life process more profound and satisfactory. It is little difficult to shift from our normal nature of reacting to responding but continuity and persistent can lead us to give response in any situations. 

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Are we really feeling like bored or giving up?

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. – Thomas A. Edison

We could not find the answer of one question that why do we feel like bored or giving up. We give many argumentative answers that I’m bored because of my physical tiredness , mental fatigue, organisational politics, disturbing behaviours of colleagues, superiors or family members. But we could not find the exact answer within ourselves that why am I feeling bored or giving up. We shall see a simple example

Frequently in a day, we might be feeling sad because we’re sitting around and life’s disappointments are coming in our mind or trying to find a reason why things aren’t going our way. This type of thinking about our negative mood or negative event just makes everything worse. Negative thoughts leads us to many other connected negative thoughts and predictions, which are not required at that moment. This type of thought process results into loss of perspectives, create more confusions and impacts on decision-making process. At the same time, our self-talk constantly judging and criticising to our critical and important tasks we do; especially when things don’t go our way. It keeps drawing our attention to the negatives and spoils our pleasure when something positive happens. This negative dialogue takes us out of the moment and makes us feel depressed.

When we really feel to work positively on the above problem, we should consider our every thought as a suggestion and not as order. When our mind is suggesting that I am physically tired then it is suggesting to give up or to take an easier path. Kindly pause for a moment and discover more new suggestions in the thought process. Try suggesting through our thoughts that I would be feeling happy and satisfied after completing the next expected tasks and I have an ability to finish these tasks even when I don’t feel like. One thing we should always remember that whatever we accidentally receive as a thought is a suggestion and not an order. We have a power to create more suggestions through our thoughts to channelise ourselves and decide on the right option. 

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