Difference in our reaction & response

“Our body can take a quantum leap but the transformation of our mind is always incremental.”

When we talk about differentiating in our reaction and response, we need to understand what do we mean by reaction and response independently. In any professional or personal situations in our life, when we are expected to express our thoughts and emotions, we tend to express without thinking much. This process becomes reaction. It comes out with our ego, which is self protective and shadowing with our varied emotions like fear, sadness and anger. We unknowing try to save our ass and create a defence mechanism around us. Reactions are normally emotional in nature so it comes out very suddenly, which may lead us to feel regretful. 

Response is exactly opposite to a reaction. When we are expected to express out thoughts and emotions, we tend express with right reasoning and rational thought process. Response comes out slowly but it can differ the space between our trigger in mind or event and our interpretation of that trigger or event. This space allows us to create right reasoning, channelise our thought process and balance our emotions. We can move ahead peacefully in our mind to take the right decisions. Practising of giving response helps us to differ between what happens in our life and who we are, which develops our understanding people around us and make our life process more profound and satisfactory. It is little difficult to shift from our normal nature of reacting to responding but continuity and persistent can lead us to give response in any situations. 

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Can we say ‘No’ to being busy

Nowadays we are getting really busy with our tight schedules. We are having number of tasks to do and number of responsibilities in our personal, family and professional life. Sometimes we really don’t realise that how day has started and how it has ended, it just flies away with tight busy schedules. Many times we feel very guilty that we could not give time to the things, which we love to do. What is the exact fact behind being busy? Are we really asking ourselves that ‘are we really busy’?

In our regular tight scheduled day with full of tasks to do, we are used to be busy within our mind too. It has become a habit to say ourselves in our mind that I’m ‘busy’. Practicing it day by day, it becomes prestige issue. We start believing that being busy is same as being important and feeling committed in our pursuits. If we could not keep ourselves busy, we start feeling insecure. So we start ourselves pushing and over-committing. Sometimes we create a perception that people would take me for granted as a dawdler, if I would not show being busy. So it has become a prestige issue and feather in hat with a pride. But the fact is that we are impacting badly on our physical and our mental health by just saying with ourselves that ‘I am busy’.

Once we start saying ourselves that I’m busy, we miss many of our opportunities. Let’s take an example. We have listed few tasks to be done, when we have free time.  In any of our average day, sometimes we may have a free time of an hour or two at our work-place or even at home. We spend that time with something which is not important for us or time just get passes away un-consciously. We do not recall those listed tasks to do, which we would have done in that free time. Unfortunately, we always realise these tasks to be done after spending this free time with unimportant things. Right? Do you experience this common scenario? Why don’t we remember those tasks to do in that particular free time?

Answer to the above question is very simple that we are always talking with ourselves that I’m busy. This so called ‘being busy-ness’ is recorded within our minds and creating a strong block of being busy.  So as we get free-time, we could not realise that we have time now and we would spend this time by doing our pending or listed tasks. Hence crux of the story that we should start talking one message to ourselves within our mind continuously that ‘I have time and I’m going to find that out’.

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Is multi-tasking making us more productive?

Let us imagine we have entered into a Book shop. Book shop is located in a heart of the city so book shop is crowded with many customers like students, avid readers, researchers, window shoppers. Owner is the only person available in the shop to serve all of the customers. He thinks that he’s a multi-tasking person. He is showing some books to few customers, taking money from the customers who bought the books, keeping eye on window shoppers, suggesting genres and newly arrived books to few regular customers, keeping check on the current stock of the books, printing bills out of the purchases, keeping the book racks clean and tidy. He is aware about trend going in today’s environment about ‘Multi-tasking’ so he is patting his own back and praising himself.

What do we think after reading this example? “Why doesn’t he hire an assistant?”, “He could make more money by keeping few employees in a shop.” These might be obvious statements came in our mind, while reading this example. No? We are also doing the same with ourselves but not in this outside physical world but inside in our mind. Yes, shop-keeper would do more better, if he keeps an assistant or employees but he doesn’t think so. He is managing this book shop from last many years with this way and he is successful in becoming a profitable businessman. No-one can not deny his experience.

You might be thinking that I can do multi-tasking easily. I have my strategies to do. Definitely, we can do multi-tasking but now we will see what exactly happens in our mind at the time of multi-tasking. We can do two or three or more tasks together but we can not concentrate on two tasks at one point of time. So we switch ourselves from one task to another with more and more faster speed. This technique works smoothly and seamlessly upto our limits but we cross these limits without knowing ourselves. It has very thin line in between. Once we cross the limit, it takes few more seconds to focus on a task after switching ourselves from another task. It increases our performing time and we may loose few details of that task in a hurry. This results in hampering our productivity. This type of phenomenon may loose our patience level and we may become restless & anxious. This anxiety increases the time in between switching the task from one to another. It means, if we are taking 2 seconds to switch from one task to another in normal case then now we start taking 5 to 8 seconds in switching ourselves. It has cumulative effect by increasing our working time. Again it has chain reaction on hampering our performance. It may increase our tendency to have some so called relaxation like smoking limitless cigarettes or drinking glasses of beer or having some shots. Actually we are finding some relaxation in slowing the list of tasks and its switching speed.  Additionally, this habit results in addiction and hampers our health. So it is better to prioritise our tasks, understand our limits, focus on one task at time and give our best possible performance.

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Getting out of our comfort zones

In our fast paced life, we are always in a search of stability. In other words, we always find a comfort zones in our mind. For example, our body set its own system to keep our blood pressure, glucose level, body temperature and many other processes to keep the particular ‘Stability’ of our body. These processes and a particular stability are functioning to make a specific ‘Balance’ in our body. It means our daily routines have specific ‘Balance’ in our home & working environment, tasks, thought process, our potentials, our patience and many more. As we continue with the same, this particular ‘Balance’ become so normal and un-noticed to us. Actually, this ‘Balance’ is creating specific comfort zones in our mind and shaping our behaviour with the same. It always continues to as we realise to make a change in it.

Now we will see the impact of this ‘Balance’ on our body and mind. This fast paced life has given us lot of impatience and habit of excess expectations in a lesser time. Even many self-made motivation experts are contributing by imposing us to set high goals for fast actions. But we fail to understand that our fast actions are going against our stabilising or balancing factor in our body. We are trying to change and coming out of our comfort zones but it is a un-natural way of doing it. Rapid change confuses our body and mind so our ‘Balance’ start restoring it. If you are going rapidly beyond limits of your normal performance, your body and mind ‘Balance’ blocks you from doing the change.

Let’s take a simple example.

Every year we make many resolutions at the start of the year. Getting up early in the morning, going for a walk or exercise in the morning, doing cycling or swimming or gymnasium, reading at least 10 pages a day from a favourite book and joining a music class are the examples of typical resolutions, which we do. We start to do such decided activities but end up doing these things after 3 or 4 days. We just start a walk in the morning but our work keeps us busy for next few late nights. We are about to go for a music class but guests walk in at the same time. We just start reading a book, our relative asks the same book to borrow from us. Day by day, these reasons become endless and we pull ourself back in our previous routine.

We definitely can make a change in our life and come out of our comfort zones. We have to set a smaller change, focus on small wins and lesser percent of improvement. As we get success in the decided small change, we can go further for next smaller change. This means we have to give enough time and patience to our body and mind to accommodate that change in our specific ‘Balance’

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