Getting out of our comfort zones

In our fast paced life, we are always in a search of stability. In other words, we always find a comfort zones in our mind. For example, our body set its own system to keep our blood pressure, glucose level, body temperature and many other processes to keep the particular ‘Stability’ of our body. These processes and a particular stability are functioning to make a specific ‘Balance’ in our body. It means our daily routines have specific ‘Balance’ in our home & working environment, tasks, thought process, our potentials, our patience and many more. As we continue with the same, this particular ‘Balance’ become so normal and un-noticed to us. Actually, this ‘Balance’ is creating specific comfort zones in our mind and shaping our behaviour with the same. It always continues to as we realise to make a change in it.

Now we will see the impact of this ‘Balance’ on our body and mind. This fast paced life has given us lot of impatience and habit of excess expectations in a lesser time. Even many self-made motivation experts are contributing by imposing us to set high goals for fast actions. But we fail to understand that our fast actions are going against our stabilising or balancing factor in our body. We are trying to change and coming out of our comfort zones but it is a un-natural way of doing it. Rapid change confuses our body and mind so our ‘Balance’ start restoring it. If you are going rapidly beyond limits of your normal performance, your body and mind ‘Balance’ blocks you from doing the change.

Let’s take a simple example.

Every year we make many resolutions at the start of the year. Getting up early in the morning, going for a walk or exercise in the morning, doing cycling or swimming or gymnasium, reading at least 10 pages a day from a favourite book and joining a music class are the examples of typical resolutions, which we do. We start to do such decided activities but end up doing these things after 3 or 4 days. We just start a walk in the morning but our work keeps us busy for next few late nights. We are about to go for a music class but guests walk in at the same time. We just start reading a book, our relative asks the same book to borrow from us. Day by day, these reasons become endless and we pull ourself back in our previous routine.

We definitely can make a change in our life and come out of our comfort zones. We have to set a smaller change, focus on small wins and lesser percent of improvement. As we get success in the decided small change, we can go further for next smaller change. This means we have to give enough time and patience to our body and mind to accommodate that change in our specific ‘Balance’

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Do you postpone your tasks daily?

Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans – John Lennon

We are living in a so dynamic world that we have minimum bagful of tasks to do in a day in our professional as well as in personal life. We always want to complete all the tasks but all tasks could not get completed in a day. So here we start postponing our tasks. But first question arises in this situation that why couldn’t we complete our tasks? Lets find this answer first. We need to question ourselves that how many times we are present with our mind at the time of doing the particular task. If we can keep our mind in the present where we are doing our tasks, we can do the same task in a lesser time. Let us see an example to understand it more easily.

When we brush our teeth every morning, we take 5 minutes or sometimes 10/15 minutes or sometimes 10 seconds would also feels like ages. We should give enough time to brush our teeth but why do we need variable time to make it. This instance shows us that we are not present there in the task but wandering with our mind in many other things and that is how we delay to our tasks. We will see another example. If I have a task of cleaning the table everyday. It takes me 5 minutes to complete. Now if I keep my mind in the present and do the same activity, I can do it in 1 minute. This is how I can save on 4 minutes at my disposal. Do this experiment with yourself, you would definitely realise, how much time we can save in an entire day.

Postponing tasks or procrastination generally does not have anything to do with number of tasks or complexity or responsibility or lack of confidence or lack of skills. We do not keep our mind in the present so our mind starts wandering, it becomes an entertainment in our mind and we start postponing our tasks. Sometimes we wander in some of our happy moments in our past and sometimes we wander in sad or fearful moments in our life. We wander in our imagined future too with sad or happy feeling. These imagined feelings become our emotions in the present and we could not concentrate, where we are now. According to general behaviour of a human being, we tend to choose things, which are easy for us to do. We start choosing things or tasks, where our mind presence would not require to complete the task. We start postponing the important but critical or complicated tasks, where our mind presence is required. So lack of mind presence is the culprit of procrastination in most of the cases.

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Anger can be used as a strategy

In this modern age, ‘Anger Management’ is a popular subject to discuss in Corporate world and also in any informal groups. Few people are really pissed off with these words but have not understood about Anger Management at all. Many ways or strategies have been defined for Anger Management recently but all are not feeling it applicable to everyone. Many experts say it very easily that when we are sure that we can make any change in any disastrous situation, then what is the advantage of getting angry? and when we are sure that we cannot make any change in any disastrous situation, then what is the advantage to become angry? In both ways, there is no any point in getting angry.

Yes, it is entirely true but it does not happen like this in many situations. We get angry and create disastrous moments around us.

Anger is our emotion so it can not be removed from our mind but it definitely can be regulated. We will take a simple but meaningful example. Anyone’s death makes us feel bad, whether he is our acquittance or any other person from society. If I hear a news of someone’s death, I feel very bad. As I get to know that person is my friend or relative, I get sad or very sad. I used to see memories around that person and getting more & more sad. But by suppressing my emotion, I used to stand for my routine work. But this suppression of my emotion may lead me to depression. So I need to regulate my emotion on my own, no-one else can not do any thing to regulate my inner emotional status. But how it can be regulated?

Now let’s take an another example of anger. You must have been experienced this example in your formal & informal groups. Group of persons are sitting together and having a discussion, a person comes in the room, joins this group and sits with them. He starts talking very loudly with anger and getting aggressive with some issue. Someone from that group asks him “Why are you so angry? It’s okay nothing had been happened.” So how this angry man reacts to it? “No, I am not angry. Why should I be angry about?” But situation is telling the truth to other persons in the group that he’s actually angry and getting aggressive. But he’s not ready to accept that he’s angry.

In both type of examples, we have seen that we are not accepting our emotions very easily. If we accept our current emotion in our mind then we can help ourself to regulate the same emotion. Emotions can be regulated only if we accept. Now you will argue that in many cases we need to become angry to get something done from others. In case of mothers, they need to make their children to do their studies or some work. In case of manager, he needs to get some tasks done by his subordinates. In these similar type of cases, we feel like to be angry to get something done. These situations also can be handled intelligently with a different strategy.

First, we need to accept our emotion that we are getting angry. It is obvious that we get angry, if someone is not doing his desired work. This situation is expecting from me to become angry and say something angrily to get something done. Yes, this can be said very angrily as per the requirement of the situation but as a strategy to get the things done. When we are using anger as strategy, we should be aware with ourself. This should not become my emotion at any point of time in that situation. We should be telling ourself inside in our mind that we are using anger as a strategy to get something done. It is not my emotion and should not be my emotion. Using your anger as your strategy (wherever it is necessary) make you more productive and healthy too.

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Close relation of Spinal Cord, Breathing, our emotions & thoughts

Usually we love to sit in a recliner chairs and prefer this kind of chairs in our office, home, bus, car and theatres. We feel very comfortable in these type of chairs. We used to sit hours and hours on recliner type of chair in our offices. This sitting arrangement gives very good muscle comfort to our body. But we can offer two types of comforts to our body one is Muscle Comfort and other is Organ Comfort.

In our body, most of our vital organs are placed in our heart and abdomen region. These important organs are not bolted to any pillar in our body. It is like hanging shirt on a hanger. You can keep your shirt wrinkle free, if it is hanged properly and kept it straight. Similarly if we seat with our spine erect, our important organs get necessary comfort. These organs can give the best performance.

If we can keep our spinal cord means our neck, upper back and lower back in a straight position, we can have a complete breathing cycle from our abdomen to chest. So our body is breathing-in maximum fresh air in our lungs, which results into more and more freshness in our body and in our mental state. It is difficult to sit in a straight position for our hours but we can train our muscles to be comfortable with the spine erect.

If we are seating with a spine straight and doing the full respiration consciously, then we can concentrate on our work well. We can deliver best possible quality performance and increase our productivity in the work and at our home also. With the ‘spine-erected sitting’ and full respiration, we can regulate our emotions and thought process easily and take balanced decisions. This can be the best technique for regulating our anger, anxiety and sadness.

So keep breathing, keep your spine straight.

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Breathing impacts our emotions & thoughts

“Conscious breathing is a simplest tool on this earth to make our life happy”

In our techno-freak world, we have many ‘Apps’ to manage anything in our materialistic life. Now we have many more iOS & Android Apps for our health care. It’s trending on our social media. But we tend to forget the simplest tool or ‘In-built App’, which nature had given us i.e breathing.

Actually we start our life with the breathing & stopping the breathing is generally considered as end of one’s life. So breathing is so intensely connected with our every activity. It has its own impact on our body & mind. Even if we start observing our breathing, we can recognise different patterns of respiration in our different emotions. When we are anxious, irritated, sad and panic; we have certain pattern of breathing. When we are happy and joyful; we have different pattern of breathing. It proves how breathing is connected with our emotions and mental state. Now it has been medically & scientifically proven that conscious breathing also helps to keep us physically & mentally healthy.

Breathing is so inherent part of us that made us unfocused about our breathing process. We are going through different emotions & thoughts throughout the day. We are concerned about pressures or stress, which we are creating through our emotions and thoughts. But we have easily forgotten to keep a watch on our breathing, which can actually regulate our emotions & thoughts.

Conscious breathing or keeping a watch on our breathing process, when we are doing our day to day activities help to keep us mentally & physically healthy.

So keep breathing, keep walking.

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Emotions are the best medicine for managing stress

Emotions are very important and sacred element of our mind. Emotions shape our life and quality of our life. We always have question about importance of thoughts and emotions, so both are two sides of a same coin. If we have sweet emotions for someone then we always have all good thoughts about him or her. On the other side when we have some negative or bad thoughts about someone, we have nasty emotions about him or her. Actually we used to carry negative emotions for a longer period of time. It is our mind game, which we always play within us.

When we are pitching our product or a concept to any new client. We do study them personally and even we study about their company or products. In the process of our research, we collect many things and our thoughts have started processing the negative and positive sides about the client. Considering few bad experiences in our  business deals, we start thinking about negative elements more. In a result, story of our thoughts start imagining all possible negative elements from our known world. Obviously by the rule of nature, our thoughts create negative emotions in our mind. So these negative emotions used to create negativity in our minds, which leads to loosing the deal with the client. Loosing the deal or a client is a stressful situation in any business. This also happens with our personal relationships too.

Our thoughts have great speed and pace. For example, if we close our eyes and start thinking about Himalaya, we reach Himalaya within a mili-second. Actually it is faster than speed of light. But our emotions does not have that much of speed so emotions could not match the speed of our thoughts. So when we have negative emotions, we used to keep those negative emotions for a longer time in our mind. But on the other side, our thoughts have gone far ahead with negative impact. When we approach to any professional or personal tasks, our long carried negative emotions create negative thoughts lead to failure in most of the cases. Consistent failures in fulfilling expectations leads to stress.

We ourselves are only responsible for our success and failure. If we can try to keep the balance in our emotions on a regular basis, we can come up with  rational thoughts. Rational thought process teaches us to see the situations neutrally. Actually this game of our emotions and thoughts are easy to discuss but always difficult to process so we need consistency and persistence to work on our emotional balance and thought process. Sometimes few individuals might need some professional help for the above process.

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